Information to ease the process

When you have lost someone to cancer, the weight of grief can feel impossible to carry. Yet in the midst of that pain, there are practicalities that still need attention. From registering the death to arranging a funeral, there is a lot to navigate during this difficult time. 

Immediately after the death 

It is completely normal to feel numb, sad, or in shock. Give yourself permission to sit quietly, gather your thoughts, and be with loved ones.

The next steps will depend on where your loved one passed away.

• At home: Contact the doctor or nursing team to confirm the death. You can then call a funeral director, who will guide you sensitively through what happens next.
• In a hospital, hospice, or nursing home: Staff will advise on next steps and help you obtain the death certificate, which you will need to register the death.

Who to inform 

Notifying people and organisations is an important early step. Consider sharing this task among family members to ease the load.

You will need to contact:

• Family and friends – spread the responsibility where possible.
• Banks and financial institutions – especially if you are the executor managing accounts or funeral costs.
• Utilities, insurance, and service providers – most have dedicated bereavement teams to help close accounts.
• Digital accounts – including social media, email, and online shopping accounts. 

Planning the funeral 

A funeral director can manage most aspects of the service, reducing stress during an incredibly hard time. Check whether your loved one had a prepaid funeral plan or insurance policy. If finances are a concern, assistance may be available.

Wills and estates 

If a will exists, the executor will manage the estate and settle outstanding affairs. Without a will, the process can take longer and may require family mediation. Sorting through personal belongings can be emotionally difficult. Lean on those around you where you can.

Looking after yourself 

Grief looks different for everyone. You may feel sadness, relief, anger, or guilt. All of it is valid. Be gentle with yourself and reach out to friends, family, or professional support services when you need them. You do not have to do this alone.

Cancer Council Australia – 13 11 20
Griefline – 1300 845 745
Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636
Lifeline– 13 11 14
Services Australia 
Australian Centre for Grief and Bereavement